Love letter dedicated to Helen Egbe

...would I, if I could, supplant one of any of the affections that I know to have taken root in you - that great and solemn one, for instance. I feel that if I could get myself remade, as if turned to gold, I WOULD not even then desire to become more than the mere setting to that diamond you must always wear.

The regard and esteem you now give me, in this letter, and which I press to my heart and bow my head upon, is all I can take and all too embarrassing, using all my gratitude.

My Heart -

We are thus far separated - but after all one mile is as bad as a thousand - which is a great consolation to one who must travel six hundred before he meets you again. If it will give you any satisfaction - I am as comfortless as a pilgrim with peas in his shoes - and as cold as Charity - Chastity or any other Virtue.

Olufemi

This morning, I heard a knock on my door and it was my friend chuks. He had been self employed for some time now, no thanks to the economic condition of the country. He used to work in one of the banks until he was told his service was no longer needed in the unit he worked and was drafted to another unit. To cut the long story short, he was given an unimaginable target to meet at the marketing department. He got booted when he couldn’t deliver.
He ventured into his personal business and for those who think going personal is easy, they need to ask my friend. For 3 years now, he has been living like a ghost, unable to pay his usual bills forcing him to live a low life, he doesn’t even hang out with the boys any longer.
This morning, he came to my apartment because he needed advice, he told me he ran into an old friend yesterday, she proposed marriage to him and promised to give him N5million naira to revive his business. The problem now is that this same girl used to be a pass around in the office, everyone among the boys could give a vivid and accurate description of how she looked undressed! Everybody had tasted her and discussed it in the guys cycle! Now, she is offering him a life time package enriched with N5m, though he needs the money, he said he can’t imagine himself living the rest of his life with someone everyone has passed around in the office and most of them will probably be at the wedding since they still get in touch.
What should he do???
As for me? I have no advice for him. Please advice him because he is reading this page. Thanks so much.

A big Question for ladies….please answer!!!!!!!

If you tell your boyfriend you are pregnant and he denies / doubt paternity of the child, what will you do? Will you get rid of the pregnancy? Plead with him that you have never cheated on him, why would he say that or plead with him to allow you have the baby for him then call off the relationship? I need answers from you beautiful gurls! Any gurl without self esteem should not answer here please. I’m tired of the films I watch on DSTV (Africa magic), the other day I saw a film where a gurl was raped by thieves and she refused to flush the stuff which eventually lead to pregnancy and she refused to remove, of course the husband sent her packing because he wouldn’t father a child that wasn’t his as long as she wont get rid of it.
Now ladies, tell me, will you go ahead to carry a baby when the guy in question doesn’t want it putting into consideration the pains you will go through during pregnancy and the attention you will need from your man which wont be there since he’s telling you to get rid of it?
Cant wait to read from Y’all.

Magun: would you administer on your spouse?

Bimpe and Tade started dating since high school, one would have expected that the length of their relationship spanning into 12 yrs would have allowed for trust and understanding. Tade was always insecure, not even after marriage did that change! He wanted to know every man that said hi to his wife, he wanted to know everything his wife did! That of course was like hell for the young pretty woman but she bore it all.
To say I love Tade is an understatement said Bimpe, he is good looking, nice, so caring and loving. He is also successful but never secure. He feels since I am beautiful, there must be a man seeing me or asking me out. For God’s sake I told him several times, I will never descend low to dating anyone at all, not even when we are married.
That’s what Bimpe told me in the office this morning, she was full of tears, now she claims Tade opened up to her last night that he thought she was seeing someone and had administered Magun on her some 11 days earlier and would expire by 14th day. Since no one had died, it means she has been faithful and she will die if no one has sexual intercourse with her! He begged to have sex with her so he could die instead of her because he won’t be his normal self if Bimpe died. She is now in a fix of what to do, should she give in to the husband so he dies or she waits and die or better still look for some guy somewhere and lure him to do it and die?
Please help her make a decision here

My Note: until this morning, I was actually surprised there was still anyone in this jet age using Magun! For those who are not in the know, Magun is a Yoruba word that means don't climb, it is pronounced “margoon”. It is a kind of destructive check put on a lady who is suspected to be having illicit affairs, it is like a rope put on the floor for the lady to step on, she immediately becomes a carrier! It is deadlier than the very dreaded H.I.V it doesn’t waste time in its judgement, it is immediate. When there is sexual intercourse with a woman who carries, the result is immediate death.
My question is why a man would put that on his wife? If you suspect your spouse is cheating, is that the next thing to do?
Please your responses are needed in this one, she has till next week to take a descision or she dies!
Should she allow the husband to climb and die?
Should she look for an innocent guy to climb?
Should she wait and die by herself?

The floor is yours, pls save a life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Getting engaged

The prelude to a wedding is the whole act of getting engaged and having an engagement. What is getting engaged? Why is it so important to couples that would like to get married?Getting engaged is the process that occurs when couples agree to get married. In today's society it is mostly the man that asks the woman to marry him, but in increasing numbers women are becoming the ones to ask the question. After they have agreed, they are said to be "engaged" to each other. It is at this moment that a woman engaged to man is called that his fiancée, and he becomes her fiancé.Getting engaged is almost the same as betrothal, often time these terms have been used interchangeably. There is a difference however, as betrothal is a formal arrangement or agreement involving the marrying couple and their families and in some cases the community in which they live in. It is traditional that when couples become engaged, the woman wears an engagement ring. The rings are worn to celebrate their engagement. The engagement ring is not the same as wedding rings, which is presented to each other during the wedding ceremonies. Tradition has it that engagement rings should be worn on the third finger of left hand.When couples get engaged the period between the engagement and the wedding is unusually an exciting time for them as they begin to get a feel of what the marriage is going to be like and their respective role in the marriage. The couple's relationship will move to a different level because they looking forward to a life together.They will also be making careful preparations for their wedding day, and will begin to discuss in a serious way any plans they have for their future together, and layout a direction for the family they will create.When couples go through the process of getting engaged, they are this virtue immediately thought of in the community they live in as husband and wife. There is a much higher and deeper level of intimacy, since the couple will be taking on a greater acceptance of their up coming roles as husband and wife.Getting engaged brings about for the couple the spending of more time with each other. They will begin to do a lot of things together, operating like a married couple. By doing these activities together they help to strengthen their relationship and their bond, bringing them closer together and possibly their families. After getting engaged it is common for couples go to live together once their engagement is formally announced.Some couples that are not living in the same country or are some distance away from each other do actually get engaged when their intent is to get married at some time in the distant future. Depending on the couple and their beliefs and customs the engagement period may be very shot or very long. There are certain religious groups that require that couples be engaged for up to a year before they can get married. Hence getting engaged for them is the beginning of a very long preparation period for the couple.Getting engaged is sometimes followed, in some cultures, by a formal announcement and a massive celebration or party. This is to commemorate the engagement of the couple and their commitment to each other. The engage couple is presented to the world almost like a coming out party. It is important for couples to remember that getting engaged is the beginning of their journey together and they are not to take it lightly.