ONLINE DATING 101

You've been exchanging correspondence for a while now and you feel that you've found a great match! You're ready to take your virtual friendship to the next level, but don't have the slightest clue as how to do it. It's simple; flirt a little.

Online flirting is not about dropping one-liners; it's an art form. And an art form cannot be forced. When making conversation, be as natural as possible, just let it happen. Read between the lines of what he/she is saying in their messages to you and then respond to that in an almost suggestive way. By now you should know what their sense of humour is like, so be playful in your replies and be their kind of funny. When offering compliments, do so only if you really mean it – being insincere and dishing out phony compliments can backfire horribly, and after all the time you've spent laying down the groundwork for your friendship, you don't want to ruin things now.

Because you're online, why not make use of the resources at your disposal? Share a link to a story or picture or video that relates to your match's hobbies and interests. It shows that you have actually been paying attention to their conversations and the things they've been telling you. It also gives you more things to talk about, like whether they enjoyed what you'd sent them.

Another way of being playful is asking questions that'll lead your online dating match to think about meeting in person. For instance, asking them if you were to go out to a romantic dinner, where would the two of you go. This puts the idea in their head that you're open to meeting, but that you want the meeting to be more than plutonic.

Once you get a sense that they're open to online flirting (and you will pretty quickly), it's very easy to get caught up in the excitement of it and fire off replies at every opportunity. Don't. Maintain a certain level of mystery and aloofness that keeps them interested in the conversations but that doesn't lead them to believe that you've gotten bored and moved on.

Online flirting is probably the only way you'll ever get to stop yourself from blurting out those embarrassing remarks or lame comments. When having a face-to-face conversation, we're often forced to say the first thing that comes to mind to avoid those awkward silences. But the nature of online conversations allows you to censor everything you say. So make the most of this perfect opportunity at self-censorship and have fun flirting online.

READ YOUR DATE.

Finally…You’re out on a date! You want to know what she thinks about you. You want to know the meaning of her smile and gaze. You want to discover a variety of non- verbal clues to find out about her real personality. You want to know what she really thinks about you. You want to read her like a book, so here’s how!

The eyes: Mirrors of the soul

Good signs:

An intense gaze that happens for more than five seconds doesn’t necessarily mean your date’s into you. This might be a seduction pose to get you to bed with her. Check your date’s pupils while she gazes, dilation indicates arousal.
If your date insist having eye contact beyond a few seconds, she wants to make you feel nervous or stir up lust or attraction. If you do the same, then the feeling is mutual.
Eye contact suggests sincerity and truthfulness.
A quick eyebrow lift is a universal sign that your date is into you.
Bad signs:

Excessive blinking means your date is lying or uncomfortable.
If your date’s eyes roll upward, she might be pissed or she probably disagreed with what you are saying or doing.
If your date avoids eye contact, she might be lying, uncomfortable or just plain shy.
If your date is blinking slowly, this might mean she is losing interest on the conversation you are having.
The mouth: Conversations, kisses and devious smiles

Good signs:

If your date has an upturned close-mouth grin, she is shy or insecure but appreciates your company.
If your date smiles with teeth barely showing, she is enjoying your company.
If your date licks her lips all the time, you are arousing her.
If your date laughs easily during conversations or jokes, she is very comfortable and relaxed with you.
If your date gives a big smile, she admires you a lot.
If your date gives you a soft peck on the cheek, she likes you and respects you as well.
If your date gives you a long lusty kiss, she is sexually empowered with thoughts of you.
Bad signs:

If your date half smiles the whole time, she doesn’t want a serious relationship to happen.
If your date has a devilish grin, she just wants to bed you.
If your date barely smiles, she is probably not interested in the conversation you are having.
The hand: Tools of action

Good signs:

If she extends his palms or if she exposes her wrists, chances are, your date likes you.
If your date has very animated hands while talking, she is very attentive and expressive.
If your date holds your hands in public, she is very proud of you.
If your date folds her hands with thumbs up, she has something positive to say.
If your date steeples her fingers, she is an intellectual person.
Bad signs:

If your date folds her hands with thumbs down, she has something negative to say.
If your date wrings hands constantly, she is insecure.
Others: Non- verbal flirtations

Good signs:

If your date stands or walks less than an arm’s length away from you, she wants to know you more intimately.
If your date leans in close, she is trying to get your attention.
Bad signs

If your date stands with her toes pointing towards each other, she needs reassurance that you like her.
If your date tugs at her clothing all the time, she is bored.
Each body part suggests a story on the real feelings your date has. Though they are important measures to check on your date, do not rely on them because traditions and conditions play a big part on them as well. Thanks for reading...Godman.

FIRST DATE TRAP!!!

Ok guys, how often have you been on a first date, where everything appeared to be going smoothly. You managed to avoid spilling red wine on her lap, insulting her parents, and you felt that you had a connection. Yet when you ring her back, she ‘has other plans’. So, what on earth did you do wrong? Easy, you acted like she was your girlfriend already. You showed an uncommon interest in everything she said and did. You acted like husband and wife, that made her uncomfortable. You viewed her as a conquest, and you barely knew her surname. Women generally like a first date to be casual, comfortable, and relaxed. Good conversation, interesting topics, and, most importantly, a guy who does not act like a freak.

Reverse the situations for a minute. Imagine you met a woman who talked about ‘future plans’ on a first date. She was talking about meeting her parents, picking out curtains for the sitting room in the house you are going to move in together, planning venues for the wedding etc. That would scare you right? Well it should! You may protest and say ‘I didn’t say anything like that to her’. That’s irrelevant, your voice didn’t say it, but your body language sure did. Ok, the wedding venue comment might be over the top but you get the idea. Women can read your body language like you can read a sports magazine. So, stop acting desperate, stop seeking attention like a new-born puppy and start getting these women to call you back!

First up, know that if the woman is not attracted to you, nothing you say or do will change her mind about you. Accept that you can only be friends at best with women like this and move on. When on your first date, just act calm and collected. Act like you don’t need her adulation, make some funny jokes at her expense. Let her know that you are not overawed by her beauty. Give her enough attention to stay interested, but not so much so as to smother her. If you spot any flaws she has, then poke fun at her, but be sure to do this in a humorous, jovial way, NOT in a mean nasty way (you want her to like you remember!). If she reacts badly to your friendly joking around, then she is probably not worth spending time with. Basically, enjoy your first date, pretend that she’s just a friend, and if other things happen, just roll with it.

YOUR FIRST DATE!!!

Achieving Success on the FIRST DATE

It’s that day. The day you get that anxiety-inducing message from your chat mate saying: “Let’s meet!” You really want to make a good impression, but it has been months since you went out on a date and your flirting skills have become rusty. You’re a nervous wreck. What do you do?

Psyche Yourself!

Psyching doesn’t necessarily mean talking to yourself on what to do and what’s going to happen. Psyching means preparation. In this case, you are preparing yourself to be confident and unleash your irresistible side. Begin with the physical aspect then move to psyching yourself mentally.

Dress according to where your date will take you. Choose something that emphasizes your assets yet doesn’t look tacky.
Smell good but not overpoweringly fragrant. Scents evoke good memories and stir emotions.
For women, do not be too “made- up”. Wear simple makeup that hides flaws and accentuates your natural beauty.
For men, do not disregard good hygiene. You can look rugged if it fits your personality but not too rugged that you look dirty.
Although anyone can’t see it, wearing sexy underwear boosts your confidence and sensuality level a notch higher… and who knows, you might reveal it to your date after everything!
If you are shy and not spontaneous, prepare topics that you and your date can talk about. Note them in your head (don’t write them PLEASE). Avoid topics that can lead to conflict (ex. Politics, religious beliefs etc.)
Before leaving for that date, look at yourself in the mirror and smile. Tell yourself: “You are a beautiful creation of God. You are irresistible. You are desirable!”
Be Punctual - Don’t let your date wait. Punctuality means respecting your date.

Relax - Being comfortable makes your date feel comfortable too. Do not try to impress your date too much. Keep it easy and FUN.

Conversation MUSTs

Compliment your date but do not compliment too much that you sound desperate. Complimenting means showing appreciation to your date. Compliment your date on different aspects; do not focus on just one (ex. physical features only). Compliment with respect not with lust.
Be interesting. Express yourself and be interesting but do not be too self- absorbed and let your date speak as well.
Ask questions. Make your date feel that you want to know them more. Value their opinions.
Make your date laugh. Humor is sexy. Laughing releases feel good hormones that make you and your date feel more comfortable and excited with each other.
Be attentive on what your date is saying and avoid doing things that might offend him or her (ex. staring at other men or women, checking your cell phone all the time, etc).
Look into your date’s eyes. Show your date that you can be trusted and that you find him or her interesting.
Ending date #1

Once again appreciate. Thank your date for the great time you had.
Try to avoid getting “all the way” on the first date. The first date is all about getting the person to be interested with you. Let him or her CRAVE for you. Do not rush.


If your date calls you or messages you for a second date then congratulations! If you don’t get a call, message or reply then it’s not meant to be. Reevaluate what happened and check your mistakes then move on to your next date! Do not loathe in misery. Remember, if it’s not meant to happen, then there must be a good reason for it not to. A successful first date doesn’t necessarily mean having a next one, a successful first date entails you going out there, exploring your options and having fun.Thanks for reading... Godman

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5 PRICES OF HELP IN DATING

5 PRICES OF HELP IN DATING
These points represent what you need to do if you need help concerning dating. If you have realized that you need help which is the first thing, you are on the right path, just read the following:
1. DESPERATION…Hmmm, don't get this wrong, desperation can be used in the right way! You need to be desperate if you don't want to remain single, go out there and get what belongs to you. If you want to get a date, you have to mingle. You can’t remain in your house and meet anybody, you have to go out!

2. PERSONALITY PRICE…You are not recommended for your intention but action! You need to change the way you talk, eat in public, behave, and probably the way you walk!
3. POSITIONING You need to position yourself where you will be seen! If you want to date a banker and you don't work in the bank, you better open an account in the bank if you don't have one! Make it a habit to keep checking your account balance even if you know how much you have there, you might just meet the guy or lady of your dream there!

4. POSTURE You are expecting and God has given you a guy who has been coming around to say hi, yet you make too much yanga! When he says hi, you reply with half of your mouth, you make him feel you are not happy to see him though you are happy…you might just need to change.

5. Giving. You need to give something to get what you want, believe me. You must give! What you will give now depends on what you have. I won’t talk too much on this point. Be stingy with what you have and you might just remain lonely.

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Do you know the handwriting of your beau?

In those good days, when men were boys and women were girls, we all wrote love letters to our babes, those were the serious times, even your handwriting and not the content of your letter could make the babe like you. There was no text message like it is now. The words were spelt out in your letters not writing abbreviations as we have them in text message. Today you don't even know the guy that is brilliant and can spell words because it’s been made easy for them. You can imagine a guy sending a text to his babe to say he has catarrh, he will just say hi babe, I have kata!

Let’s get talking now, do you know the handwriting of your partner?
For me, she knows mine and I know hers too. The first day we met, I wrote her note (message) in church, though I had nothing in mind then LOL.